I thought to add something to the previous article. Ruffled feathers. Unhappiness. Perhaps something my friend, in the previous article, might consider.
I was curious knowing two people who often got upset, yet only one of them seemed to suffer. The only thing I could gather was the one was angry for reasons of real purpose, stating his position and reasoning, then going on with life. In other words, though he seemed upset how his brother was behaving around the family get-to-gethers, it somehow seemed more honest. The other seemed to stay stuck, unable to get the upset out of his system. Perhaps, the first will eventually feel the repercussions, and perhaps the second held onto it more.
A pastor friend of mine once said that anger, or resentment, causes doubt. Also, there is a feeling of guilt that follows, sometimes not noticed until later.
I was talking with a friend today. We both agreed that forgiveness is important. She was talking about good self-esteem, and that how we feel towards the people around us directly impacts how we feel about ourselves. How we think about others impacts how we feel about ourselves. And this goes with how we treat others.
For instance, in relationships. If we look upon others, thoughtfully valueing them as human beings, then we also value ourselves. One doesn’t remain without the other. Which made me realize why a couple of people, in my youth, perhaps high school, who I treated very rotten, and whom I wished I could apologize, made me feel the way I did.
Yes. Our self-esteem does come with how we treat others, but not only that, but how we think about them. Also situations: life situations.
The lady in the previous article, from Japan, never seemed preoccupied with other people. I had found that wonderful. She always seemed to be in the present, doing this or that, but completely at peace. That coincided with a friend that once told me, that in life, though there are difficult situations, he rarely ever seems to remember them, moving through life as his steps take him. I thought that was also wonderful. However, the people I know that continue to talk about daily challenges, those seem to be the less happy. Like they’re stuck in the past.
Communication in Real Time 